
My husband and I constantly argue about if, when and in what type of extra-curricular activity we should register our kids. My husband is of the opinion that we should just let our kids be kids and enjoy free play until they are at least 5 or 6 years old. I, on the other hand, believe that kids should be stimulated and learn to co-exist in a structured environment playing sports, doing arts and crafts, or other activities with other kids; the more activities the better starting at about 3 years of age.
Our boys are 3 and 2 years old. This year is the first year we registered them
into an extra-curricular activity: music. Sorry, I'm lying. We did sign up for
swimming lessons before several times, but we would end up attending a maximum
of 2 out of 9 or 12 lessons because the boys would always get sick. So, then my
husband finally said no more swimming! "We'll take them ourselves
leisurely; it's not like they're learning how to swim anyway.", he added.
My problem is that unless you register for lessons, you never make the time to
actually take your kids anywhere; you always find an excuse to stay home, relax
or 'let the kids be kids' (even if that means watching cartoons), and then I
feel like we don't spend true quality time with our kids playing or
participating in a fun activity. Moreover, boys always have too much energy that they need to spend somehow. Going outside to the playground or doing various activities is a way to stimulate them and a means to get their energy out instead of being restless inside the house and possibly destroying the home. For instance, yesterday our oldest decided to draw on the freshly painted walls in the playroom.
This year, with the music class, I see how much our boys enjoy themselves and
can't wait to go back. It makes me so happy. But, I must admit that even this
one music class (one scheduled during the week after daycare and another one
Sunday mornings) is a challenge to fit into our busy schedule. The constant
rush of getting everyone ready, making sure they're fed properly (and cleaned
up), dressed, driving in traffic, infants (if you have any) screaming on top of
their lungs at the most inopportune time, you know the drill, all to make sure
you get to that extra-curricular activity on time. And, I'm not even going to
mention the price tags for playing sports, such as hockey.


Then comes the question of which after school activity. Do you let your kids
decide or do you decide yourself.A few of my husband's buddies came over the
other week and we started talking about registering our oldest in soccer. Then, the guys started analyzing the different types of sports boys normally play. There
is hockey: the most popular - the national sport of Canada, and the most expensive because of the equipment you need to purchase, the time you need to invest, the politics, as well as the additional skill you need to acquire - skating - before you even begin to learn how to play hockey. There is soccer: less expensive
and you're not dependent on the weather or additional skills like learning how
to skate (and my husband is amazing at it and a huge fan, so that's definitely
a plus). There is basketball, also another popular sport for boys, but I find that this sport is more for when you're older, i.e. once in elementary school at least. Then, there is baseball: "that's the best sport to register your
kids in", exclaimed one of the guys and my husband concurred. "That's
where you have the least amount of injuries and can earn lots of money, one of my husband's buddies added." It's unbelievable; the main activity or sport you choose for your kids becomes a calculated
decision. Some of my friends choose hockey for their kids hoping that one day
their boys can get a scholarship to go to university. Don't get me wrong, I think it's great if it works out and as a parent you don't have to pay for your kids' education, especially with the sky rocketing tuition prices nowadays. But, whatever happened to pure passion
for sports, dance, arts, and excelling in something you love? How and when do you figure out about what your kids are passionate?

I recently read a very illuminating article about 'tiger parenting' (haven't even heard of this term before) referring to the parents who over-schedule, over-instruct and over-push their kids by registering their kids in way too many after school activities. And believe me, I'm not judging anyone. If anything, I'm definitely on track of becoming that tiger parent. Luckily, my husband is there to slow me down. Our oldest is not even 4 years old yet, and if it were up to me, he'd be registered into 3 different after school activities this year. There is substantial research suggesting that many kids are so overcharged with all kinds of extra curricular activities, in addition to their daily homework, that they don't get enough sleep or rest, weakening their immune system, which results in more illnesses throughout the year.

Disclosure: All opinions are my own.
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